Welcome!

[Domestic Abuse Helpline TeamModerator]

A big friendly welcome to @Still-I-Rise! Thanks for being with us here. If you’d like to, tell us about what brought you here, or have a look at the threads we mention above to see if there’s anything you’d like to share there. No pressure though – feel free to just read too 🙂

[Still-I-RiseParticipant]

I’m a survivor. Thanks for this forum. I wish I had sought out help at the time but I’m sure it can help us all to see those red flags, discuss and listen and guide us through our struggles.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline TeamModerator]

You’re welcome Still-I-Rise. A lot of people here have mentioned feeling unable to seek help or talk about what was happening to them while it happened and it’s something we hear a lot on the helpline too. Hopefully on the forum we can all offer that safe space to talk to those who need it, and a space for those like you who are healing from what happened. Thank you so much for joining us.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline TeamModerator]

Good morning to @Openeyes,@pintsizedyogi and @NJT really good to have you here on the forum. You might like to join in the conversations with other forums users in ‘is it abuse? or ‘abuse from family – being outed’ A new topic in recovery after abuse has been started by a forum user too. We hope you find the forum a useful space for you 🙂 The Helpline Team

[NJTParticipant]

Just wanted to introduce myself. My name’s N. (well clearly that’s not my name, but this whole thing feels a little overwhelming and I’d rather go by N for now). I’ve been lurking on a bunch of forums over the past four months or so. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a bit of a rough period, but for a while now I’ve felt like maybe it’s more than just a period, and I’ve started to lose hope of ever reaching the end of said period.

All of the info and forums that I’ve looked at talk about “abusive relationships” and “domestic abuse”, and I hate those words. I feel weird saying “abusive”, because it feels surreal to even consider that that is the situation I might be in. There’s also a part of me that doesn’t want to say it, because I don’t want it to be true.

I don’t feel comfortable telling everything that’s happened because it feels too personal, but I will say I’m in pain both physically and emotionally almost every single day, and I’m not sure how much longer I can take it. I’m so alone in this, and I have no clue what I can do to make it better.

I don’t even know what difference being on here is going to make. I guess maybe I just wanted to get it off my chest. I don’t have any questions or anything like that, and I don’t think I need advice. I just wanted to vent, which I did.

I also just want to say that I do love my boyfriend, and I don’t want to lose him. I just want us to be okay.

Hope you’re all having a wonderful day.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline TeamModerator]

Hi N,

Really well done for venting and getting this off your chest. This is what the forum is here for. I hear you that you don’t want advice, and we will respect that. This is a little note to say you don’t have to be alone with this and we can talk through or email with you about what is going on. We won’t judge you or make you do anything you don’t want. Sometimes just talking it through can help make sense of a situation 🙂

I’m going to add your post into ‘Is it abuse?’ Topic too, as more people may see it there.

The helpline is Freephone 0800 999 5428 help@galop.org.uk

We are here for you,

The Helpline Team

[Thesulli1995Participant]

Hello! 🙂 I am well call me by my username or A. I am 26 and I am a survivor of domestic abuse. I am still struggling but hopefully talking about my experience will help :)! Lovely to meet you all 🙂

[Domestic Abuse Helpline TeamModerator]

Hello A! Thank you so much for being here. It can be a real struggle to be recovering from domestic abuse. But you’re taking an important step in finding ways to heal. I hope that sharing with us here does help.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline TeamModerator]

I would also like to welcome @Helpinggetaway, @EcclesCake and @tulipany. It’s brilliant that you’ve joined, and you’d be very welcome to share more about yourselves here or in other parts of the forum.

@Helpinggetaway has already started a really important conversation over in Need Support and I’d really welcome contributions from others because I suspect lots of you have very important things to say about the topic of leaving an abusive partner (or family member).

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