What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is any kind of threatening behavior, violence, or abuse between people who have been intimate partners or family members. This includes forced marriage, abuse relating to gender identity or sexuality, and so-called honour-based violence. Domestic abuse can occur between current or former intimate partners or in the family.
Domestic abuse can take many forms, including psychological, physical, sexual, financial, and emotional abuse.
Find out how to tell if you’re experiencing it and what to do if you are.
Does your partner, ex-partner, or a family member:
- Calls you names, threaten you, or puts you down?
- Use your gender or sexuality as a basis for threats or harm?
- Damage your property?
- Make sure you on them for money, housing, and other necessities?
- Uses your gender or sexuality as a tactic to threaten you or harm you?
- Threaten to harm you or others that you love?
- Control your access to money?
- Tell you that you are responsible for everything wrong in the relationship?
- Make unwanted advances or force you into unwanted sexual contact?
- Hit, shove, grab, kick, throw things, or use other forms of physical violence on you?
- Control your contact with friends, family, work, or the LGBT ‘scene’?
- Threaten to harm themselves if you leave or seek help?
If so, you may be experiencing domestic abuse.
See the LGBT+ domestic abuse supports below, get in touch with Galop to learn your options, and get help.
A safe, anonymous online forum for LGBT+ survivors of domestic abuse to share their experiences and give and receive support from one another. Here you can:
- Talk about something worrying you in your relationship or family and hear from other survivors
- Get information and guidance from the helpline team
- Speak out about something that happened in the past and still affects you now
- Read about the experiences of other LGBT+ survivors of abuse
- Find and share resources and information about recovery from abuse
- Give support and encouragement to other LGBT+ survivors of domestic abuse and violence
Get support, at your own pace, from other LGBT+ people who have lived experience of abuse and will understand exactly how hard it can be to talk about what's happening.
Helpline workers will be present on the forum to offer support, information and guidance and to ensure the forum is safe and supportive for everyone that uses it. You can read the forum discussions without joining, but if you want to introduce yourself, join in the discussion, and connect with other survivors then register for your own profile by clicking 'Join'. Your e-mail address is never visible to anyone but the helpline team. Remember that if you do register, you may sometimes receive e-mails from the forum or the helpline (if we have a concern and want to talk to you about it).
Get information via our AI Chatbot - Flag:
AI Chatbot Flag is a free service for LGBT+ people at risk of facing domestic violence and abuse.
Sometimes it’s difficult to understand when a relationship becomes abusive, what’s happening to you and what to do when you are experiencing domestic abuse. Don’t worry, you’re not alone, Flag can help you navigate your options and keep safe.
T: 0800 999 5428
Emotional and practical support for LGBT+ people experiencing domestic abuse. Abuse isn’t always physical- it can be psychological, emotional, financial, and sexual too.
10am – 5pm Monday
10am – 5pm Tuesday
10am – 8pm Wednesday
10am – 8pm Thursday
10am – 5pm Friday
1pm – 5pm Tuesday is trans specific service.
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5pm - 8pm Wednesday
5pm - 8pm Thursday
The National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse project aims to improve the infrastructure and support for reporting of LGBT+ domestic abuse as well as making it easier for LGBT+ people to seek help when they need it. It is a Home Office supported initiative.
This project also advocates for LGBT+ domestic abuse recognition in policy, conducts research to learn about the experiences of LGBT+ survivors of domestic abuse, and educates the broader anti-violence sector on best practices for supporting LGBT+ survivors.
National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Project Partners:
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender + (LGBT+) Domestic Abuse Casework Services
Online self-referral form
This service collaborates with many LGBT+ agencies who each provide different services for LGBT victims/survivors of domestic abuse. By contacting Galop once, you can be linked in with Galop, Stonewall Housing, LGBT Switchboard, and London Friend, and many more organizations.
You’ll have access to a range of services including:
- Advice and safety planning
- Housing advice, including options on finding safe accommodation
- Emotional support
- Free one-to-one Counselling
- Support and assistance with dealing with the police
- Help reporting incidents
- Legal advice on civil or criminal protection (e.g., non-molestation orders)
- Support through civil and criminal court system
- Help finding solicitors
- Advice on child safety and child contact issues
- Specific support around sexual abuse
- Translation service available to those who do not have English as a first language
To get started with the LGBT Domestic Abuse Casework Service, fill out a referral form. You can explore your options with a specialist worker and receive immediate assistance if necessary.